Parental Pornography and Trophy Wives

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ArgueI  read. I write. I cook and I change diapers. That’s a large part of my day.

Yesterday was a very interesting “read” day, and again, I thought I’d share it with you.

And since I–like Fox News— like to pretend to be unbiased, though I really sorta am, I’m going to hit you with two articles, one that I have personally titled, “You gotta be friggin’ kidding me!” and the other I deem, “See, I blame you women!”

And with that teaser, I bring you, THE NEWS.

“You gotta be friggin kidding me!”

Read the article here.

In short, a guy in the UK was frolicking with his kids at a local park. As they played on the slide (presumably one of those inflatable jumpy ones), he was snapping pics of them. For whatever reason, the person running the slide  asked him to stop. When he explained he was taking pics of his own kids, and showed her on his camera, another snooty parent jumped on the bandwagon. Chaos ensued until HE called the police, at which point the policeman explained that he was well within his rights to snap pics of his kids and then under his breath, the cop apparently called the complainers a bunch of idiots.

Loving parents and cops, one
Morons of the world, zero!

What I find so unnerving about this, is that the UK has been, historically, more liberal than the U.S. And they’re this freaked out about a father taking pics of his kids? This is exactly why I don’t take naked bath pics of my boys, even though it’s really cute and I’d love to embarrass them in front of future girlfriends one day.

“See, I blame you women!”

Read the article here.

In short, this is a rather long, but fact-based article about how women are finding that all that wonderful, exciting work that men have been doing out of the home, just kinda sucks!

The article discusses some very successful women who have left the workplace and who now find perfect contentment doing all those things at home that women complained they needed to get away from in the first place; with the exception of maybe dusting. However, I know from conversations with CareerMom, that staying at home, in our current situation, would be darn-near intolerable to her. So clearly, there are exceptions.

What I would really like to see however, is a survey that says, “If your husband made as much money as the two of you do combined, and he put in roughly the same hours he does now, and therefore still did his usual share of household chores and hands-on parenting, would you be willing (dare I say, “Happy?”) to stay home?”

See, I think that CareerMom, all things being equal, would find ways to kick things up a notch. And truthfully, her biggest issue is having to be home with whiney kids all day, but then, how long does that last? Three, four years tops? And then they’re in school all day. Suddenly, “VOILA!” Loads o’ free time.

All that free time to go to the gym you complain about needing. Got it.

Been wanting to take up tennis for fun and fitness. Got it.

Feel bad because you don’t have time to get involved in a charity. Hey look, there’s a needy cause!

So, I wonder.

What about you? Love your 8-5 job enough to keep doing it if you had the money to quit?


6 thoughts on “Parental Pornography and Trophy Wives

    Emily said:
    July 16, 2008 at 9:43 am

    Just moved back from 2 years in the UK. There, they are laid back about their children’s behavior to one another, but there is a lot of paranoia (like here) about pedophiles. I was constantly being warned about this or that pedophile on the loose.

    RE: Interesting. Guess we’re all a lot less different that we may think. Curious insight!

    romi41 said:
    July 16, 2008 at 10:13 pm

    I have only been a corporate monkey for 4 years, but I think I would quite enjoy to stay at home…however, I have this thing about staying at home and still wanting to earn an income…even if it wasn’t needed I would want to do something numerically productive (does that sound bad?)…I’d love to be a paid writer and stay at home…*sigh* 😉

    RE: Actually, I think you just stated the way most MEN feel. We’d all be perfectly happy staying at home, IF we felt financially free to do as we please; which we wouldn’t unless WE were contributing to the family income. Call it a gazillion years of caveman breeding, but men, at least, still believe that it is our job to support our families.

    And if some young, hot (Indian?) girl wants to marry us and spend all her time in the gym and the kitchen perfecting her womanly arts, then hey, who are we to argue with evolution?

    dobeman said:
    July 17, 2008 at 11:24 am

    I received the following correspondence from a lady named “Nikki.” She fairly new to the blog scene and until she gets a login created, she can’t post comments. I asked if I could post her comment and she agreed:

    I’m new to your site and haven’t figured out how to comment yet but I wanted to comment on women in the working place. I love the idea of being able to stay home with my kids. In fact I did for the first 3 years that I had my kids. I planned on staying home with them until they were in school and then work part time. However, life has a way of changing things. My husband at the time was not….we’ll say perfect…far from it. Actually he hit our oldest one night and when he went to work the next day I left with both of our children driving from Texas to Ohio. So now my views have changed a little. Even if I had the chance to marry someone that made enough money for us to live comfortably without me working, I think I would still want to work at least part time. With how divorce rates are you just never know. And I personally want to have the security of knowing that I have the work experience to be able to find a good job quickly. I had very little work history and school under my belt when I left my ex. All I could find were jobs that had me working until 11 at night and my kids were not happy. There are few babysitters that are willing to watch children that late. And since I didn’t have a degree my only options were minimum wage jobs. However, I got the courage up to go to school full time and quit my job so I could be with my kids as much as possible and do well in school. But that’s just my story. I’m sure there are women out there that have the loving husbands that would support them staying home to take care of the house and kids. I just wasn’t one of the lucky ones. Hopefully one day I will have that chance and will be able to work my couple days a week…just to feel safe.

    Allison said:
    July 17, 2008 at 11:48 am

    For me, the ultimate feeling of vulnerability would be relying on somebody else to exclusively provide income and to trust that they would not be controlling about finances. I like working because it gives me a sense of security about my future…especially with the hubby’s health problems.

    There’s also a chance that I would go crazy if I had to deal with whining all day long. Hats off to daycare workers…I feel like I work a lot harder on weekends than I do when I’m at work. Maybe I could handle part-time work, but I can’t even imagine that as a possibility.

    RE: So, you and Nikki both like the idea of work from a personal security standpoint. Interesting…and not surprising. So, no trophy wife readers yet huh? Darn.

    One of my first semesters in college, when I went back in ’02, I had a young lady in my class who, upon being asked what her aspirations were from college replied, “To find a husband and become a trophy wife!” I respected her for her honesty. By the time I graduated, she was still single.

    AtHomeDaddy said:
    July 17, 2008 at 11:55 am

    My comment ended up somewhere else, sorry about that…

    Anyways, I would quit if someone would pay me for stuff like stepping on Legos and having to dress Polly Pockets all day!

    RE: You DO get paid for it…with “butterfly kisses!” HA HA!

    Dannie said:
    July 17, 2008 at 9:23 pm

    Ok, I admit it. I would *love* to stay home with any kids that I am blessed enough to have in the future. It’s been my dream for as long as I can remember.

    My mom and dad were never really able to spend a lot of time with me as a child, since they both had to work to keep us afloat. And I’m not saying that I don’t respect their choices. They did what they had to do. But I remember what it was like to be lonely and wanting to spend time with my parents and they were just too busy to.

    In a perfect situation, I’d love to stay home to spend time with my kids. And I do love my 7 to 4 job as well. But I’ll take the kids over the job any day. They are only little once and there are many years in which to work.

    RE: My childhood was much the same; however, if I’m being honest, I couldn’t be a SAHD. Or at least, if I did, things would have to run a whole lot different than they do on the weekends, when it’s nothing but go go go…entertain, entertain, entertain!

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